2 - Ajem to Rauf [via Text]

Thank you. Read it. To be frank with you, I had suspected that when you backed out the very first time (before marrying Wife) it was because you were not capable of noticing and appreciating the spiritual merit of Wife. Now, after reading your comments, it is clear. Very disappointing. How is it that you are in a tariqa? And for what reason exactly? People of tariqa have basira and insight. You have reduced this human being to a product with “missing features”.  The greatest “feature” you do not value and so you want to return the product. With this blindness you will get exactly what you deserve in life and It perhaps it will make you happy temporarily. Or you can work on yourself and begin to see the beauty of your spouse and thank Allah, and be patient with the missing “features” that are NOT significant nor a permanent problem. As for the essential feature that you are definitely missing, if I was Wife, I would not negotiate on it. Rectify yourself, apologize and take your wife back if she accepts you with your deficiencies.

3 – Rauf to Ajem [via Text]

Salam Sidi- not sure why “features” is coming up. It’s Ajeeb. Ramy said it too. These are human qualities one hones, particularly if they are actively learning in the tariqa which I fatally assumed. I expected a lot better out of a JRJ graduate. May be anger, stubbornness, lack of cooperation have a spiritual merit of some sort. I realize one is suppose to see good in everyone, however, it doesn’t mean they should be married or done business with. The things I mentioned are qualities one assesses pre-marital. I do think she’d benefit from a noble person out of the GTA. And you are right- she may not want to be with an idiot and an uncivilized clown like me. AllahuAlam. If you like I can talk to her and Sidi Ramy or if you prefer I don’t do that, that works too. 

4 – Ajem to Rauf [via Text]

Human qualities like?
List them here:

Here are some human qualities that are called “khuluq”:
Patience
Gratitude 
Clemency 
Courage
Taqwa
Iman
Love
Wisdom
Loyalty 
Trueness
Etc..
These are unseen (spiritual merit) that are hidden within

Then there are the opposites of these.

Your rant in disturbing email are features of a product. It sounds like you want an employee. 

Your inability to value her and your highlighting all of her faults ruined this relationship internally before it even started. As I mentioned, the issues you pointed out are NOT permanent and can be rectified because of her spiritual merit that you are blind to.

Btw if you are suggesting there is a conspiracy against you because sidi Ramy used the same word “feature”, then this is a breach in our relationship. And btw, your other breach of adab with sidi Mohamed is based on nothing but your own imagination and poor judgment.

I have nothing further to add. I gave my advice. No need to respond or call me on this issue.